In The Name of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
Assalamualaikum semua….Semoga dalam naungan rahmat dan kasih sayangNYA selalu. Apa khabar iman anda? Semoga iman kita semakin bertambah seiring dengan pertambahan umur kita. Insyaallah..
Lunch Made by my husband (spoon used by me, and chopstick for him) 
While serving this food, my husband shout “spoon vs chopstick” referring to the meal above. I smiled and got idea to wrote this entry. Something to ponder about… What actually I want to point out? Anyone? 
“Spoon vs Chostick”
“First of all, most people that get married don’t see themselves as half of a pair — they still see themselves as a person who has their own life, their own priorities, their own love, their own hate, their own hobbies, their own habits… and here’s another person with their own life, and I’m gonna try and get from them everything I want for myself and they’re trying to get from me what they want for themselves.
Two selfish people come together — they don’t really become zauj (a spouse). They don’t come together as two halves; they’re two wholes. That leaves a gap in between their marriage: mentally you’re not thinking of yourself as someone who’s going to give half of themselves up for somebody else.
Literally, if you only have half, the other half is somebody else’s, right? That’s what married life is. You gotta give up half the stuff you wanna do. And you have to replace it with what she wants to do. And you too — you have to give it up for what he wants to do. That’s how it works, that’s zawaj (a spouse), that’s marriage.” via KhalilAlekar.com
Betulkan… Saya pun tak terkecuali. Baru mula-mula kahwin ni banyak perkara kita perlu saling bertoleransi dan bertolak ansur. Bak kata husband saya, “ Dua orang yang berbeza bersatu, pasti akan ada dugaannya jugak”. Tapi bagaimana kita mengharungi dugaan itu yang penting. Spoon vs chostick. Walaupun saya menggunakan sudu, husband menggunakan chopstick, still tujuan kami sama iaitu untuk makan. Dua insan bersatu untuk tujuan yang satu iaitu mengharapkan perkahwinan ini mampu mencapai keredhaan Allah.
“It is necessary to build a language together, a language of looks, words, signs. A language that over time becomes almost magical in how it enables one spouse to know what the other is feeling without explanation. A language which is a joy to see when you look at those who have been happily married for many years. It is necessary to consciously remember the good that the spouse does for the other, especially when they are having a bad day and are acting strange.” via PureMatrimony
How many times do you tell your spouse how much you love him/her?
As the month of fasting commences, let us focus on what needs changing in OUR lives to make us the best of people, closest to the Almighty.
Seriously keep asking, "How can I improve as a spouse, parent, child, sibling, friend, colleague, employer etc?" {Mufti Ismail Menk}
WARNING: Shaytan WILL try to create fitnah between you and your spouse so that you may enter Ramadhaan with a problem. Watch out for it!!! He knows PRECISELY what buttons you should push to create enough frustration to ruin the beginning of the month. Remember you have an enemy who DESPISES a happy loving taqwa-filled marriage. Share this reminder with as many people as possible please. via PureMatrimony
“When you love your spouse, you love all of them. You don't skip over the parts that make them ugly, or unwanted. You can't just leave all the bad things out. If you really do love them, you find their imperfections beautiful!”
I found an interesting website
The Quran enjoins Muslims to select partners who are good and pure. On this page you will insha'Allah learn about topics related to marriage and family life in the light of Quran and Sunnah.
Visit their fb page as well:
https://www.facebook.com/purematrimony
With Love,
NUR
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